Chill And Chill

In the movies, especially in romantic comedies, the concept of the Soul Mate is never a thing that grows old. The idea that there is one person out there in the world, out of millions of others, who is meant to be with you, who will make your life complete, is not only appealing but can become a lifelong obsession for anyone.

As you go through life, you become disillusioned sometimes. The concept of destiny and ever after becomes stuff that exists only in the imagination and in the unreal world. Such a realization is not unfounded. However, it does not mean that happiness, in itself and with someone who may not be perfect but is suitable, cannot exist. A Soul Mate is someone that only a few people get to meet.

Sometimes, it is a concept that these very people apply to their partner just because they were able to work out their relationship in such a way that they think that they were destined to be together. In reality, they may be just those lucky couples who get to understand and relate with each other in the way that other people can't. It has often been said that love alone is not enough. It is sometimes also a question of temperament and compatibility. It is a question of the strength of the bond created by love, compassion, and respect. You don't find a Soul Mate because he or she exactly looks like the person you have created in your head. Physical attraction can only last for as long as the person still have those attributes, which we have to admit will fade through time.

What is friendship? Why do we call a person our friend? When do we call someone a very good friend? If we care for a person, if we are always ready to help that person and if we share most of our thoughts with a person, they are our good friends. We can always count upon our good friends in an emergency. We are always sure that our friend will understand why we acted in a certain way. We need not explain anything to our very good friends. The friendship is so deep and the relationship is so intimate, that most of the things are automatically understood by our friends.

What about love? In a relationship of deep love, all the sharing that we discussed above are taken for granted. But love transcends all this. During love, we are attached with a particular person, while in friendship, one may have many friends. A loving relationship makes one so much attached to the other, that one gets pained if his/her beloved is hurt! Love also involves a physical element. Friendship does not have that. This is a vital difference. Nature gives us love so that the specie can go forward. Nature does not give us friendship.

Your heart beats will never increase in anticipation of meeting your friend. You will not lie awake at night thinking about your friend. You will not feel totally lost, if you don't meet your friend for a few days. You will not have dreams in your eyes thinking about your friend. But in love, you will do all this and much more. Indeed, there is no comparison between love and friendship.